The Great Desk Tidy = Disaster for the rest of the house

Ok, I've cleared my desk and it is now home only to THINGS I USE.



Now can someone tell me where all the rest of this shit is supposed to go?




*sigh*

For those who don't know, I am a recovering hoarder who lives with a fellow hoarder in a house with one cupboard.

Bad Mummy is at the airport.

Today marks the blackest day of the holidays for me. It's the one where my son travels interstate as an unaccompanied minor to see his father. Not that I don't want my son to see his dad, far from it. He likes it, his dad likes it, they bond and stuff. The bit I don't like is the part where my son's welfare is suddenly out of my hands for a week.

Control freak?

Yes.

Sue me.

Being a control freak I am now a veteran when it comes to delivering unaccompanied minors unto airlines while coping with the company of fractious toddlers. These are the rules:

1. The airline will tell you to arrive two hours early. Ignore them. Arrive the usual one hour early or you'll face an hour with a bored and somewhat stressed child for company. In my case, I'd also have a bored and restless toddler who fails to see the point of sitting still in airport lounges. She has the vocal prowess of Joan Sutherland singing a high A, only with more stamina than Joan.

2. Write down all your ex partner's details before you leave or you will have to make embarrassing phone calls at check in while the airline staff eye you suspiciously. It also helps if the airline have got the name of your offspring correct, but that tends to be out of your hands.

3. On cold days you may be tempted to wear bulky jackets. Don't. You will invariably be bomb sniffed and toddlers don't like to wait around while you're checked for explosives.

4. Take a pram that can fold up umbrella style and go through the x-rays or no pram at all, otherwise you will be redirected to the wheelchair entry where you will wait for an eternity with the protesting toddler for your pram to be inadequately fondled by strangers. The only time this happened I felt slightly ill.

5. You will be tempted to take the nappy bag for the toddler. Don't. The less you have to take through airport security the better. Take ONE nappy and ONE bag of wipes wrapped in a change mat. This can fold up into the pram when it whizzes through the x-ray, and your hands will be left free to deal with the toddler who thought she was being let out of the pram to run around - when a two year old express her disappointment that her bids for freedom are being thwarted she expresses it to all and sundry, minimise the damage by traveling light and moving away fast.

6. Once you're in, buy the kids iced chocolates. This will get you at least half an hour of quiet while they eat ice cream with a straw. If other parents glare or glance disparagingly at you for giving a two year old such a rich treat I recommend a stony glare back along with wishing them a demon child for their next one. They don't know you're doing them a huge favour by keeping your little blitzkrieg distracted.

7. When it's time to say goodbye to the minor who is going, don't, whatever you do, let the guilty gibbering worrier inside you have a voice. Your child doesn't need to know that you're secretly afraid you're never going to see him again. Be cheery, tell him to spend his money on food instead of hoarding it like a miser, to have fun, and that you'll see him in a week.

Finally, the last rule:

8. After the minors have boarded and you're hanging around waiting for take off, thou shalt not look the other parents in the eye. In this case, pain shared is pain magnified, and pain magnified leads to public sobbing. Keep your haunted look to yourself. Trust me when I say the other parents have it too, you don't have to check.

Only after his little pink face has left with the gaggle of other minors (there's always a group of them) can I let myself succumb to the guilt-monger in my head. The one that scolds me for abandoning him. The one that berates me, "If you'd only been organised about your life he wouldn't have to do this!" The voice that lists a thousand things that could go wrong while I'm not there. The voice that tells me that he's your good one, your little joker, helper, entertainer, argumentative, imaginative bright spark and you've let him get on a plane alone. What were you thinking???

He must be only a few feet away really, sitting on the plane I can see through the window, but already there is a gaping hole in my side. This wound will remain raw and weeping all week. I try not to cry.

The Odd Sock Solution

Today my 11yo helped with the laundry. I told him to get all the dirty clothes out of his room and into the wash, when they were dry, he helped fold. Laundry is so much nicer with company, I find.

Now, I fold with an Odd Sock basket alongside; any sock that doesn't immediately pair up goes straight in and every now and then I go through it and find matches. Today, after a matching session we were left with no less than 35 odd socks, some of them dating back to when 11yo was four. Being the inventive type, he suggested some ways to solve our odd sock syndrome:

1) A Chameleon Sock
This sock could be paired with any other sock, and during its sojourn in the sock drawer it would gradually take on the colour and texture of the odd sock and voila! A pair of socks! The chameleon sock would revert to its distinctive state after washing.

Apparently though, that is too slow, so...

2) The Magic Sock
This sock simply automatically matches whatever other sock you happen to have on. When I asked why we couldn't just have all magic socks he said that magic socks were REALLY expensive, so nobody could afford to have more than one.

But the master solution is best...

3) The One Sock to Rule Them All
A master sock must be created. One sock to rule them all, one sock to bind them, one sock to wear them all, and in the crevices find them. So whoever had the master sock, could locate and pair all the lost and odd socks of the world. Maybe, the owner of the master sock could sell the paired socks back to their owners... or conquer earth with a Lost Sock Army. We were fuzzy on the details...

Afterwards, I followed him back to his room to help him tidy it and found no less than 13 socks just lying around, four of which belonged to his toddler sister.

It's quite possible that the Odd Sock Solution is to have the 11yo fitted for some glasses.